Welcome to a Season of Radiant Rediscovery
If you're navigating big transitions, bold beginnings, or just craving a deeper sense of purpose — you’ve found your space.
Bloom With Breezy is where we grow, glow, and embrace each new season with grace and grit.
This is a place where life’s radiant journeys, brave transitions, and soulful rediscoveries are celebrated with open arms.
Life at 40: A New Bloom
At 40, life has become a vibrant, unfolding journey — a season where wisdom meets wellness, and every milestone reflects strength, grace, and growth.
This season is about glowing from within, embracing change, and blooming boldly into my most authentic self.
It’s about shedding old layers — physically, emotionally, and spiritually — and stepping into a renewed sense of purpose.
Right now, I’m embracing a beautifully complex chapter of life:
💍 Getting engaged and building a foundation of love and legacy
🤰🏾 Walking my fertility journey with hope and tenderness
🌙 Navigating early perimenopause with grace
👨👩👧 Becoming a bonus mom and blending our family with intention
💻 Resetting and realigning my career path
🏡 Transitioning from a home of one to a home of four — and almost keeping up with the laundry (emphasis on almost 😅)
✨ Creating new rhythms of peace, joy, and intentional living
It’s messy, magical, humbling — and deeply, beautifully mine.
Why Bloom With Breezy?
Bloom With Breezy is a heartfelt space crafted for women embracing new seasons —
a space where we honor the journey, find joy in the becoming, and glow from the inside out.
Here, you’ll find stories and support around:
🌱 Personal growth and mindset shifts
💪🏾 Health, wellness, and navigating the beauty of our 40s (and beyond)
🤱🏾 Fertility, motherhood, and blended family life
💄 Beauty, self-care, and soulful routines
🛋️ DIY projects, cozy home life, and lifestyle resets
✈️ Travel adventures, daily joys, and everything in between
This isn’t about “having it all” — it’s about creating a life you love, rooted in peace, love, legacy, and limitless potential.
Our Mission
To inspire women to:
Grow boldly through every new season
Glow gracefully from within
Ground themselves in faith, purpose, and radiant joy
Because becoming is a lifelong bloom — and every season is an opportunity to shine.
Join Me on This Journey
Thank you for being here — truly. I’m so grateful to share this season of life with you:
one word, one moment, one adventure at a time.
If any of this speaks to your soul, I’d love for you to stick around.
Subscribe to the blog, leave a comment, or just say hi — let’s grow together, one radiant step at a time.
Let’s bloom, grow, and glow together — crafting beautiful lives from the inside out.
Here's to blooming bravely, glowing gracefully, and embracing every moment with an open heart.
Welcome to Bloom With Breezy — your new favorite place to grow.
Wishing you endless blooms,
Breezy
The Shift: When God Calls You to Grow
Have you ever felt like your life is shifting—but you’re not quite sure where it’s taking you?
You’re moving, but nothing feels settled. You’re stretching, but not yet seeing the fruit. That’s exactly where I am right now: in the in-between. In the sacred stretch.
Lately, I’ve felt like I’m moving through quicksand—mentally, physically, and spiritually. Some of it might be perimenopause knocking at the door (hello, hormones), but if I’m honest, I know I’m in the middle of something bigger:
God is calling me to grow.
A Season of Becoming
I’m preparing for marriage.
Praying for a baby.
Trying to get my body aligned and my spirit anchored.
I’m building a home for my family, reimagining my career, and stepping into the next version of myself.
And I know now: the version of me that got me here… can’t go with me there.
This kind of growth isn’t glamorous. It doesn’t come with a blueprint or perfect morning routine. It comes with prayer, resistance, and a whole lot of surrender.
Words That Stirred My Spirit
In this season, I’ve been leaning into voices that water my soul:
Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts, reminding me that healing doesn’t always feel good
Kirah Ominique, keeping it real about the glow-up behind the scenes
The book Closing the Gap: The Truth About Black Wealth, challenging me to look deeper at how I build legacy
Each voice echoed the same divine truth:
Transformation isn’t always pretty—but it’s purposeful.
What God Is Teaching Me
God is inviting me into:
Consistency, not convenience
Discipline, not default settings
Trust, not control
This shift is not about routines alone. It’s about releasing habits, patterns, and mindsets that no longer serve where He’s taking me.
And let me be real: I’m not doing it perfectly.
I’ve stumbled. I’ve delayed. I’ve doubted.
But I keep showing up, even when I don’t feel “ready.”
Because I know this truth:
“Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
— Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
The Stretch Is Sacred
Some days I wonder if I’m falling short.
But other days, I realize I’m growing stronger—even if it’s quiet.
I’m becoming clearer. Softer. More aligned.
I believe this stretch is making space for:
Greater peace
Deeper purpose
A more powerful version of me—rooted in God, not grind
Your Turn: Are You in a Shift Too?
Maybe you’ve been feeling:
Out of rhythm
Disconnected from your routines
Like your life is changing on the inside before it shows on the outside
If that’s you, I see you.
You are not alone.
This season may be stretching you, but it’s also setting you up.
Final Thoughts
Rooting for you as we both grow forward.
Wherever God is stretching you, may you find peace, purpose, and your next yes.
We’re blooming together at Bloom with Breezy.
Enough Is Enough
Full stop.
I lay in bed at night replaying all the things I didn’t get done. The workouts I skipped. The rooms that didn’t get cleaned. The version of myself I promised I’d be by now. I wonder why I can’t push through the heaviness the way I used to. Why motivation feels so far away. Why rest feels necessary but also makes me feel guilty.
And then I look in the mirror…
and I don’t fully recognize who I’m becoming. It shows up mostly in weight gain. In the house not being spotless.
In the quiet feeling that I’m falling short of the woman I thought I should be. I’m not unhappy. But I feel like I’m failing myself. There are days when I technically have time to work out—
but my body wants rest more than it wants discipline. And instead of honoring that, I question my strength. I don’t want to make excuses. I don’t want to blame work. Or motherhood. Or life. But the truth is… it does feel like there’s nothing left for me by the time everyone else is taken care of.
What used to work—
pushing harder, going all in, forcing change—
doesn’t work anymore. And that scares me. Because if I can’t go back to who I used to be…
then who am I now? Am I losing myself? Or am I being invited to rediscover her—
in a new body, a new season, a new truth? Lately, it feels like I’m stuck on an endless Ferris wheel. Setting goals. Creating plans. Falling short. Blaming myself. Over and over again.
And that’s when it hit me:
Enough is enough. Enough punishment. Enough self-betrayal. Enough measuring my worth by productivity, discipline, or appearance. Enough trying to force myself into a version of life that no longer fits. Loving myself doesn’t mean giving up.
It means choosing a different approach. One rooted in compassion instead of control. In consistency instead of extremes. In grace instead of guilt. I am human. I am growing. I am changing. And maybe blooming doesn’t always look like pushing through—
maybe sometimes it looks like staying present, listening deeper, and choosing myself without conditions.
I am not weak for needing rest. I am not failing because I’ve changed. I am not behind. I am a woman learning how to meet herself where she is—
and still rise. We are not broken. We are not lost. We are warriors learning how to bloom in new ways. And that… is enough.
But I responded.
“In this case, I am.”
Short. Simple. Not harsh. But not necessary. And that’s the part that stayed with me.
The Quiet Conviction
It wasn’t about being right or wrong. It was about alignment.
I’ve been in a season of growing—spiritually, emotionally, intentionally.
And in that moment, I didn’t choose peace… I chose response. Even a small one.
And sometimes, it’s the smallest moments that reveal where we still have work to do.
Not Every Moment Requires a Response
That experience reminded me of something I’m still learning:
Just because you can respond… doesn’t mean you should.
Not every comment deserves your energy. Not every question deserves your voice.Not every situation deserves your engagement. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is… nothing. Silence isn’t weakness. It’s discipline. It’s control. It’s peace.
Growth Doesn’t Always Look Like Perfection
I’ll be honest—I replayed that moment.
Thought about what I could have said. What I shouldn’t have said. How I could have just walked in peace.
But I also realized something important:
Growth isn’t about getting it right every time. It’s about recognizing the moment… and choosing better next time.
Choosing Peace Moving Forward
So here’s what I’m carrying with me:
Even when I’m right, I don’t have to respond. Peace is more valuable than proving a point. Discipline shows up in the smallest interactions. I didn’t fail. I learned.
And next time… I’ll pause a little longer
A Soft Reminder for You
If you’ve had a moment like this recently—
one you wish you handled differently—
Give yourself grace.
Take the lesson.
Release the guilt.
And move forward with intention. We’re not here to be perfect. We’re here to grow, glow, and evolve—one moment at a time.
Bloom With Breezy
Becoming softer. Becoming wiser. Becoming more intentional… in every response.
When I Didn’t Choose Silence - and What It Taught Me
There are moments in life that seem small on the surface…
but sit with you longer than they should. Not because they were dramatic.
Not because they changed anything. But because deep down—you know you could have handled it differently. Recently, I had one of those moments.
I was running errands, moving quickly, trying to grab what I needed and while in Ross I purchased some items and left them undermeath the buggy by mistake. WhenI remebered I circled back and decided to pull up front since Ross since they do not let you exit with their buggies and the lady at the register said I could because I had a large purchase that required multiple trips. As I pulled up to the front of a store to pick up the items I had forgotten next to the register, a young voice questioned me:
“Are you allowed to park there?”
I kept walking.
Finding My Weapon in This Season
On Sunday, I attended The Potter’s House where Sarah Jakes Roberts preached
a word from 2 Corinthians, chapter 10. The message was titled “This Time is Different.”
And something about it stayed with me.
She spoke about:
• The importance of sowing into the process—not just chasing the outcome
• Not growing weary when you’re doing good and the blessing just seems nowhere in sight
• Asking God for strategy—knowing which weapon to use and when
• Discerning what the moment calls for, even when it requires doing something different
• Identifying the stronghold that needs to be torn down
And the one that sat with me the most:
Knowing which weapon God is giving me to use in this season.
When What Used to Work… Doesn’t
That part stayed with me because, if I’m being honest, it’s exactly what I’ve been feeling. This past week, I’ve been making small adjustments in my life—nothing dramatic, just intentional. Because what used to work… hasn’t been yielding the results or the change I need anymore.
And that realization will humble you real quick.
The Real Battle
When I got home, I went back and read the scripture for myself. I needed to make it plain. What I took from it was simple, but not easy:
We are in a battle with our mind—our thoughts, our beliefs, the things we allow to take root. And we are responsible for what we allow to fester.
So in this season, I’m choosing to be more intentional about what I give life to. What I give energy to.
What I allow to live rent-free in my mind. Because everything doesn’t deserve my attention. We have to be equipped with the right, thoughts, habits, behaviors and actions - the right weapon to fight through.
Finding My Weapon
If I’m being honest… I still can’t fully name my weapon for this season. Because I’m still uncovering it.
But maybe the truth is—
I don’t have to fully name my weapon yet to start using it. Maybe it’s not something loud or dramatic. Maybe it’s not one big breakthrough moment. Maybe it’s built quietly… In consistency. In obedience. In the small, daily decisions that don’t look like much—but shift everything over time.
Because This Time Is Different
This time is different.
I’m no longer chasing outcomes—I’m sowing into the process.
I’m no longer letting worry take up space—I’m surrendering it.
I’m no longer reacting out of habit—I’m choosing intention and discernment. And even though I’m still uncovering what my “weapon” is in this season… I trust that God is revealing it to me—step by step.
What My Weapon Looks Like (Right Now)
It may not be fully revealed yet…
But I know it looks like:
• Consistency
• Surrender
• Discipline
• Trust
And I’m choosing to use it—daily.
What I’m Committing To
In this season, I am committed to:
• Giving my burdens and worry to God
• Taking small, intentional steps toward change
• Aligning my life more closely with Him
Since the beginning of April, I’ve been:
• Spending more time in my Word
• Praying more and talking to God throughout my day
• Tithing my 10%
• Moving my body—getting my 10K steps in everyday
• Making small, consistent efforts to grow spiritually
And honestly… it feels good. There’s a peace settling in. A quieting of the noise. Thoughts are becoming more controlled. The kind of peace that lets you know you’re headed in the right direction—even if you’re not all the way there yet. Now, I’m not going to pretend I’ve got it all together. I’m still struggling to lock in a consistent routine. I’m still working on getting to bed at a decent hour. But I am taking steps. And right now, that matters more than perfection. So for now…
I’ll keep showing up. I’ll keep praying. I’ll keep walking. I’ll keep choosing Him—again and again.
Because the real shift isn’t just finding the weapon…
It’s becoming disciplined enough, aligned enough, and obedient enough to actually use it.
And that…
is where the transformation begins.
Eloping or Celebrating? Choosing What Aligns With Your Heart
Wedding planning has been a beautiful blur of color palettes, contracts, and champagne toasts — but somewhere between the spreadsheets and seating charts, I started to feel… unsure.
Collecting addresses, selecting a venue, meeting with photographers, videographers, DJs — and yes, the biggest piece of the puzzle: setting the budget. I’m blessed to have parents who are willing to cover a significant portion of the cost, but part of me still feels guilty for even wanting them to.
Let’s be real: weddings are expensive.
Even if you’re a DIY queen or a Shein/Temu pro, it adds up. Fast.
And that’s before you consider the honeymoon, the rings, the outfits, or the bridal party experiences.
I’ve always dreamed of this moment — planning a wedding, walking into love surrounded by family and friends. But now that it’s here, I find myself asking:
Do I really need this?
Is this the best use of our money?
Will this help or hurt the marriage we’re trying to build?
📝 The Planning Highs… and the 3 A.M. Lows
Just yesterday, I had my first consultation with a wedding planner and design stylist. I knew I wanted to work with them. I’d met them at a wedding expo and felt an instant connection. I came prepared, with a detailed Canva presentation outlining my wedding vision — budget, venue, theme, color palette, priorities, and key questions.
The meeting was everything I hoped it would be. They got me.
They saw the vision.
I walked away confident that I’d found the perfect fit.
Later that night, I called my mom to share the good news, walked through the numbers, added a few more names to the guest list (ugh), and shut down my laptop around 11 PM.
But by 3 A.M., my mind was spinning.
💸 The Real Costs (and the Real Talk)
Here’s where the math started to feel heavy:
Venue + Catering (for 100 guests) – $16,000 (current guest count: 130)
Photography – $6,600
DJ – $1,275
Videography – $4,200
Partial Planning & Design + Decor Budget – $10,500
And that doesn’t include rings, dress, bridal party gifts, invitations, cake, or the rehearsal dinner.
Anxiety hit me like a wave.
How will I pay for this?
What will I sacrifice?
I need new tires. We're trying to build a smart financial future — could this put a strain on our marriage before it even begins?
💭 From Pinterest Dreams to Peaceful Decisions
Honestly… I’d be perfectly happy marrying the man I love in a courtroom, followed by dinner at Yardbird — his favorite restaurant. That’s enough for me. Just us, celebrating our forever in the simplest way.
That idea?
It gives me peace.
And that feeling — peace — matters more to me than party favors.
This isn’t the first time I’ve felt the tension, and it won’t be the last. But it’s the first time I’ve truly sat with the question:
What choice honors the life we’re building — emotionally, spiritually, and financially?
And in that stillness, I heard the answer.
Eloping feels aligned.
5 Questions to Ask Yourself If You're Torn Between Eloping or a Wedding
1. What kind of moment do I want to remember — sacredly intimate or shared celebration?
Do you envision just the two of you in a quiet, private space… or dancing with your village and hearing your people cheer as you say I do?
2. Am I making this decision from alignment or obligation?
Are you honoring your true desire — or someone else’s expectations?
If no one else had an opinion, what would I choose?
3. How do I want to feel on that day — calm, carefree, energized, adored?
Weddings and elopements carry different energies. One may feel lighter, simpler, or more soulful depending on your season of life.
4. What’s most important to me: the ceremony, the celebration, or the commitment itself?
Some brides want the aesthetic. Others, the covenant. What’s your why?
5. Will this decision honor the life we're building — emotionally, financially, and spiritually?
How will this choice impact your marriage, your peace, and your future?
💖 My Final Thoughts
This decision isn’t just about logistics. It’s about alignment. Whether you elope on a mountaintop or dance barefoot under chandeliers — let it be a day that reflects your values, your love, and your peace.
Because real love doesn’t need an audience.
Just intention.
💬 Let’s Reflect:
Are you torn between eloping and hosting a wedding?
What feelings or expectations are showing up for you?
Send me a message or let me know on Instagram — I’d love to hold space for your heart as you choose your yes. 🤍
